aio-posix: Fix concurrent aio_poll/set_fd_handler.

It is possible for an io_poll callback to be concurrently executed along
with an aio_set_fd_handlers. This can cause all sorts of problems, like
a NULL callback or a bad opaque pointer.

This changes set_fd_handlers so that it no longer modify existing handlers
entries and instead, always insert those after having proper initialisation.

Tested-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Remy Noel <remy.noel@blade-group.com>
Reviewed-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>
Message-id: 20181220152030.28035-3-remy.noel@blade-group.com
Signed-off-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>