aio: Add "is_external" flag for event handlers

All callers pass in false, and the real external ones will switch to
true in coming patches.

Signed-off-by: Fam Zheng <famz@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Jeff Cody <jcody@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Kevin Wolf <kwolf@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Kevin Wolf <kwolf@redhat.com>