vhost+postcopy: Add vhost waker

Register a waker function in vhost-user code to be notified when
pages arrive or requests to previously mapped pages get requested.

Signed-off-by: Dr. David Alan Gilbert <dgilbert@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Marc-André Lureau <marcandre.lureau@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>