virtio: introduce virtio_device_ioeventfd_enabled

This will be used to forbid iothread configuration when the
proxy does not allow using ioeventfd.  To simplify the implementation,
change the direction of the ioeventfd_disabled callback too.

Reviewed-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Cornelia Huck <cornelia.huck@de.ibm.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>