util: Use meson checks for valloc() and memalign() presence

Instead of assuming that all CONFIG_BSD have valloc() and anything
else is memalign(), explicitly check for those functions in
meson.build and use the "is the function present" define.  Tests for
specific functionality are better than which-OS checks; this also
lets us give a helpful error message if somehow there's no usable
function present.

Signed-off-by: Peter Maydell <peter.maydell@linaro.org>
Reviewed-by: Richard Henderson <richard.henderson@linaro.org>
Reviewed-by: Philippe Mathieu-Daudé <f4bug@amsat.org>
Message-id: 20220226180723.1706285-8-peter.maydell@linaro.org