util/vhost-user-server: rework vu_client_trip() coroutine lifecycle

The vu_client_trip() coroutine is leaked during AioContext switching. It
is also unsafe to destroy the vu_dev in panic_cb() since its callers
still access it in some cases.

Rework the lifecycle to solve these safety issues.

Signed-off-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>
Message-id: 20200924151549.913737-10-stefanha@redhat.com
Signed-off-by: Stefan Hajnoczi <stefanha@redhat.com>