libvhost-user: make it a meson subproject

By making libvhost-user a subproject, check it builds
standalone (without the global QEMU cflags etc).

Note that the library still relies on QEMU include/qemu/atomic.h and
linux_headers/.

Signed-off-by: Marc-André Lureau <marcandre.lureau@redhat.com>
Message-Id: <20201125100640.366523-6-marcandre.lureau@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>