ui/console: use exclusive mechanism directly

The previous commit (8bb93c6f) using async_safe_run_on_cpu() doesn't
work on graphics sub-system which restrict which threads can do GUI
updates. Rather the special casing MacOS we just directly call the
helper and move all the exclusive handling into do_dafe_dpy_refresh().

The unfortunate bouncing of the BQL is to ensure there is no deadlock
as vCPUs waiting on the BQL are kicked into their quiescent state.

Signed-off-by: Alex Bennée <alex.bennee@linaro.org>
Reviewed-by: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Gerd Hoffmann <kraxel@redhat.com>